Sunday Email - Part 3

I can still remember my dad said...

"Why don't he gets a real job?"

He was referring to me at that time. It was
year 2003 when I was "self-employed" -- doing
my own stuff which my dad doesn't really
have a clue what EXACTLY I'm doing.

"Do you know what he's doing?" Asked
my dad to my mum.

Mum doesn't have much clue as well but
she believes in me. More of that later on.

You see, I can't blame Dad to think like that
at all. Dad's been driving taxi for over
10 years now.

He's a hard-working blue collar worker – Wakes
up in the morning, have a good breakfast (Butter
and bread) at home and off he goes driving to
bring back the money for the family. Every
single day he works... 7 days a week. There's
no such thing as an off day unless the family
is having some sort of outing or, if he's sick.
And if he felt sick, he really does.

Driving taxi may looks easy to most people. I
mean, how tough could be to stay focus on the
road with all of the senses God given?

But have you try driving for 8 hours a day...
365 days -- multiply that by 10 years?

And you don't get to meet nice passengers
everyday, my friend.

I respect my Dad. I just don't know how
to tell him that I love him.

Guess you can tell... Dad's income is
hard-earned money. Man, the sacrifices he
have done for the family, I don't think words
alone can describe them.

Each trip, he'll earn a few bucks. He'll have
to collect those to reach a few thousands a
month so that he can provide his family a
better life, so to speak. And Dad's a
frugal person too. Not because he is a
cheapskate, but because money was not easily
accumulated by him.

I mean, if you start to earn a few dollars
each time you completed a task, I bet that
you'll see money differently. I know I would.


Like any parents, I think Dad's ideal hope
was that his children will have good education
and end up with a good job. I mean, career.

I get good education at school, no doubt about
that. But unfortunately, I wasn't cut to be
one of those smart kids.

Smart kids in school will give a kind of look ...
You know, the look that goes,

"Look at that bummer. Wonder what he's gonna
end up doing after the school days."


I flunked.

I was not accepted to go to any public Universities
to further my education because of my low grades.
Dreams shattered into pieces.

The next choice was private college.

But if you were me... will you take your Dad's
hard-earned money gained from driving in the hot sun
to pay the darn college fee?

That's tough.

Mum wanted to give me her life saving if I need
money to go for college. She's a housewife and
doesn't have an income.

Forget it. That's even worse.

So I have to work – But the problem is, I can't
get a good job because I'm not qualifed, academically.

You see, in order for me to be qualified for most
of the jobs that I want, I wouldn't be able to
pass the first stage because most companies will
look at the damn paper first to evaluate me. No
diploma or degree. Not even a certificate.
Better luck next time, bucko.

You can tell that getting a job wasn't easy then.

So I end up as a salesperson. I get paid when I sell.

That's it.

The harder I sell, the more money I'll make.

I ended up becoming a very HARDWORKING person
for money. Well, that's good and bad depending on
which angle you're looking at.

That's my JOB.

To cut the story short, I was in the sales line
for almost two years before I stepped out to do my
own stuff. The products I've sold ranges from
door-to-door greeting cards to electronic components
for corporate clients.

Then one fine day, I felt like quiting my job.

I've had it.

It'll take at least "10 Sunday Emails" to write how
in the world I end up doing my own stuff.

In a nutshell, I started doing my own entrepreneurial
stuff, alone.

The only thing backing me up that time was... me.

Don't laugh when I say this -- I just have this strong
desire to achieve more in life. If you read this post
completely, I'll tell you the reason, ok? So stay
with me.

Imagine, being alone and running like a madman
to make money. You know, when you're over optimistic,
it's just ain't 'healthy'. Don't you feel that the
enviroment and community somehow act to 'help' you
to become normal and not to be successful? I know
it's strange but try talking to your friends that
you want to make money from the internet soon.

Mum and Dad weren't all excited. I mean, how could
they be?

My relationship with Dad wasn't all colorful for
a long period of time since the day I quited my
"good" job. I think, he was dissapointed and
confused of how stupid I was. And I can see his
point now, but not at that time. I was slightly
dissapointed with him for not standing on my side.

Even my ex-girlfriend's parents were surprised
at that time. They think their daughter's future
is going to be a deep struggle coz I don't have a job
anymore. Most of my friends (Except for the super
close ones) start to avoid me because they don't
see any benefits mixing with a 'loser'.

I don't have much support after that.

And they are all RIGHT.

I messed up.

Should have stick with a good job.

And all of these having nothing to do with
Internet businesses yet. I was just trying to do
my own stuff like multi-level marketing business,
printing business, marketing seminars, etc.

Like usual, things are good in the beginning
and they started to fell off apart as time goes by
without proper planning.

That is when I turned to the internet to sort out
my financial disaster.

Gosh.. Just by remembering myself in that shoe
still gives me the chill. No money left in the
bank and full of credit card debts. I can tell you
that it wasn't fun. Don't try this at home.

Lucky for me, Mum was there to support me
financially. I don't know whether it's a mother's
instinct or she simply believes in me.

What the heck. Took it to pay off my debts first.

The sad part was... I can't share my problem
with most people because they'll go,

"I told you so."

As my money keep draining out each day, I spent
more time to understand how to make money online.

You'll think I lied if I told you what kind of
sacrifices I've done to learn how to make money
online.

At that time, internet broadband wasn't even
existed yet in the area where I live.

I have rented an office at that time.

So after work (After 6.30PM), I'll go back home
to have a quick dinner and a nice shower. That
would be about 9.00 PM. Then I'll rushed back
to the office to learn all I can about internet
marketing and start building it. I can still remember
I was the only person in the whole office block.
Not in the office, but the WHOLE OFFICE BLOCK.

Can't be surprised because I'll normally be
up until 2.00 AM in the morning.

Until to a stage, the security guard of the office
block knows me personally and we became friends.

And kiss goodbye to weekends. My new best pal
for the weekends is non other than Mr. Computer.

I've even sneak to do my internet stuff when
working in the daytime.

And did you think I made money after all
of these sacrifices?

Nope.

I don't get it. All of these courses that I
was reading at that time told me it was easy.

Now I can fairly assumed that these
marketers probably have never made a single
red cent online before other than selling
courses to innocent people like me.

I can't still remember I bought a "Blaster" that
time. The membership claimed that it'll send
my advertising message to 100,000 subscribers
from a click of a button. Wait. I think it
was 1,000,000. Geez. I can't remember but I'm
pretty happy at 100,000 that time.

When I sleep that night after hitting the "Send"
button, I lay my eyes shut with a pleasant smile
on my face ... expecting to make money by
tomorrow morning.

That was a nice feeling. The hope. Wow.

Ha. You know happen, don't you?

NOT EVEN ONE VISITOR from that promotion.

Dammit. Why did they lie to me????? I've paid
my $29.95 and the salesletter says it'll send out
to 100,000 people.

I then realized that, I was not alone. Thousands
of people paid for a 'hope' that can never be
achieved.

Until today, I still don't get it why people are
still selling this kind of 'software' when
they know it's not working? I guess money is
a good reason to do almost anything online for
some marketers. It's nothing wrong ... but for
God's sake, sell something that works!


I'm just banging my head on the wall.

Failure after failure, but I would not give up.
It's so close that I can 'taste' it, only in my
dream of course.

It took me at least 6 months to get my first sale.

It was tiring.

But I strived with a reason. Call it whatever you
want -- an ambition, a goal, etc.

During that time, no one knows the deep s#@t I'm
in except for my mum. She's always there for me,
morally or financially. Sometimes, she'll be worried
about me because she's afraid that I don't know
what to do with my life. I tried to explain to
her but how in the world can I expect her to know
what's an opt-in list. Thanks for hanging there
for me, Mum. You're the best.

Dad?

It's sad but I can't tell Dad. Dad will always
have the thought...

"See? I told you so but you wouldn't listen."

Until today, Dad doesn't really know what I do
but he's cool now because I've brought in results
that he can see. House. Car. Watch. You know.

The struggle I've been through was not easy but
I can tell you this -- it's WORTH IT.

Am I successful? Compared to a few years
ago, yeah. Everyday, I can go to sleep with my
eyes shut with a smile on my face for a better
tomorrow. But other thant that, I think I'm
just scratching the surface only.


There are many messages I want to pass to you
from my sharing today.

You'll read all kind of salesletters online selling to
you a "hope". Marketers do that all of the time and I
highly recommend you to do that as well when you're
selling something online one day (or now).

*Marketing tip: Sell the hope, not the product.

But if you're not ready to be in a difficult situation,
don't bother to buy it. Please don't for the benefits
of you and the marketers.

I like to think all marketers are good people – Selling
to you products so that you can improve yourself.

But hey, you gotta think for yourself that it's gonna
required your time and effort TO DO IT.

It's going to require you to SACRIFICE. What are
the sacrifices? I don't know! It could be cutting down on
your TV time everyday or lose playing with your kids.

I hate it when I need to throw in the cold water to
you like this. It just doesn't adds up more points
for you to like me. But if I want to help you, I have
no choice do it. I'm sorry. I don't want to sell you a
hope that cannot be achieved but hope that can come true.

If a marketer tells you to buy his course without
doing anything and you'll make money online, I think
he's a liar.

Lucky for him, he'll probably get away with that
because that's what all people want to hear. Just
like the "Blaster" I've bought.


So this leads me the next million-dollar question...

"What is the thing that will moves you to do this?"

A purpose.

You might know that I've coached hundreds of
students to make money online by now.

A student attended my internet marketing workshop
with a passion.

So I asked him, "What's your purpose to learn
how to make money online?"

He told me that...

His mum is getting older every single day. He loves
her a lot. I can see that in his eyes when he was
sharing with me. But with his current job, there's
no way he can be at home with her while making
money. I think he wanted to build an internet business
because of a very powerful purpose – To stay at
home with his mum and having the ability to decide
what time he'll work. Today, he's making money
online fulltime and quited his job.

Is that strong?

It's MOVING.


Another story was a little bit interesting...

Let's call this guy, A. A has a rich dad. But he's
sick and tired of being treaten like someone who
gained respect because of his dad's wealth.

Look, having a rich dad is a blessing. But, if
everyone is treating you nicely because of your
dad, that sucks.

There's only one purpose why A wants to
start an online business –

And I doubt it's because he needs money.

He has a strong purpose which is to proof to
the world that HE CHAN DO IT. He doesn't need
his dad’s money or influence to be a successful
person. And guess what... he made money online
too. The last time I heard, he got 3 niches on
the internet now and the best part is, I think
he's only 23 years old this year.

A, if you're reading this, I want to tell you
that I'm very impressed with your attitude to
be on your own and proud of you.


For me, I have a purpose too. A desire to go
all out and create my own wealth.

I want to be rich, yada, yada, yada. You know,
the normal reasons why everyone in the world
is putting effort to achieve what they want.

But I think, what really DRIVES me was
"revenge". Ok, revenge is too harsh to be used.

It's a desire that I want to proof to those who looked
down on me that I'm not capable of becoming
successfully. I know, it sounds 'evil'. But I don't
think it is if you're seeing it from my point of view.

You see, during the schooling days, I just hate
the feeling I get from the teachers and the
other students that I'll be a loser when I grow up.

Hate it. It's hurtful.

Heck, I can still remember one of the school teachers
doesn't wants to answer my question.

She thinks it's useless to answer me anyway coz
I would never catch it. And all I want was to catch
up with the smarter kids. Hey, I want to be smart too.

Then, I wanted to show my other friends who have
rich parents that I can be as good as they are.

Or should I say, the same good life that they're
experiencing. If I don't have rich parents, I'll
create my own wealth. I'll still go vacation at
places they went, drink the wine they can affort, etc.

How about Dad?

You got it. I want to proof to my Dad that I was
doing the 'right' thing all of this while.

There are just so many other people that I want
to proof. But I think, the most important person that
I want to proof to was... ME.

I want to proof to myself that despite my background,
I CHAN still do it.

I think that purpose is strong enough to move me
to quit my job that time.


"So, what's your purpose?"

You have to ask yourself why you're doing this –
trying to make money online. Trust me, without
a good motivator like a purpose, you can't go far.

Each time you get kick dirt in your face, just
remember your purpose. Then, you'll 'fight' back
the whatever obtactles that comes along your way.

I think a stronger message I want to pass to you is..

"YOU NEED TO HAVE A COMPELLING REASON TO BE
SUCCESSFUL ONLINE."

There. You have it.

Is there any other lessons I've missed out?

I think there's another one.

The internet is not bias. It doesn't care how old
you are, where you from, what's your academic education
level, who you mix with, what's your race, etc. Anyone
can make money online. So I think you should take
advantage of this if you think that you have a
"weakness" in the offline world now.


I've spent more than an hour to write this and the
last thing I want to do is to throw a sales pitch for
you to buy my product. All I want is that you get the
lessons out of this post. But if you think you need
a short cut to online success without going through
what I've experienced, email to me at
support@youchandoit.com for a product recommendation.

Lastly, if you have any comment and feedback, feel
free to leave one at this end of this post. Or, if i's
private, shoot it to me at support@youchandoit.com
with Subject: Sunday Email – Part III.

You "Chan" Do It!

-Patric Chan
www.YouChanDoIt.com




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